This Saturday will be the ninth anniversary of my first date with my husband. When I remember that night, I still smile. Even though I have recently been going through some rough times, my memories from that first date just make me happy. Our plan for that night was to go to a local mall that neither of us had been to before. Well, you know what they say about the best-laid plans. Yep, that’s right. We never did find the mall that night. We drove around for three hours and shared the best conversation. I don’t remember what we talked about, but we did decide to meet the next weekend and go to the mall again! Or, to at least try.
My memories made me want to re-run the post I first wrote about meeting Robert. Our first date; it was a very good night. Here is a story about when the music first began for us…
“His Perfect Plan: Disability & Marriage”
I used to dream about meeting my “Prince Charming” when I was a little girl. I always thought someday – someday… But life had a way of intervening on my plans and things just did not go as I had planned. For instance, I never planned on my disability. But thankfully, God did have a perfect plan for me. And I have now met my Prince Charming and today, you could say that we are “living happily ever-after.” Love and marriage aren’t the only things that can go together!
I first learned about the Lord and then accepted Him as my personal savior in ’98. Knowing Jesus brought such joy into my life.
One day, when I was at a public gym that I attend, a friend of mine, who was the director of the gym and also happened to be the then music director at my church, stopped me and asked if I ever intended to remarry.
I remember telling her that I had made my choice with my first husband and that it was such a poor choice. I had no intention of choosing another partner.
I told her that I would only remarry if it were God’s choice for me. With that, we said good-bye and I didn’t really think about it again.
Several weeks later, this man from church who was named Robert started emailing me at work. I was working in an academic institution and it was during Summer break, so I had time to respond.
Our correspondence grew more regular and animated, but I still thought absolutely nothing of it. Then one day, he emailed me and said, “Oh and by the way, Shirley told me that I should ask you out sometime.” Ever so romantic, huh?
But I was very excited and I can remember squealing with delight at my desk. We made plans for our first date.
We had every intention of going to this area mall, but neither of us had ever been there before. On that first date, we drove around looking for the mall for three hours. We shared a very animated conversation, but never did find the mall.
The next weekend we tried again. Robert did say that he had studied the directions, but our attempt to find the mall was still merely an effort in futility. On our third date, we had more great conversation, but still no mall. I think we finally made it to the mall on our fourth try.
Robert has always said that he fell in love with me on our first date, but since I was determined not to make a repeat mistake, it did take me three dates to make that commitment!
He proposed to me at our church’s Valentine’s Day dinner in February and we were married that June. Robert and I are an example of opposites attracting. But, God did have a perfect plan in uniting us. The most perfect way for me to describe Robert is as the man of my dreams.
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